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| court (v) / courtship / courting arranged marriages (love marriage) spouse partner mate expectations “Christmas cake” dowry engagement / to be engaged (to) deal-breaker blind date speed dating
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| How many differences are there between Pat’s and Akane’s courtships?
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| Looking at these differences, what might we infer about the different nature and expectations of marriage in each of their cultures?
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| How important do you think love is in a marriage? What other things do you think are important?
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| How are boyfriend-girlfriend and husband-wife relationships different? Do you see big differences, or are the differences not so significant?
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| How common is it in Japan to marry someone that you don’t love?
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| What experience have you had or heard of regarding o-miai? (parents, relatives, media, etc.)
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| Describe what you think your wedding will be like (if you’re planning to get married some day)?
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| How do people know or decide on “the right one”?
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| Where are good (and bad) places to meet a future spouse? Why? (See the textbook, p. 80)
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| Describe your ideal mate. (See p. 81 in the textbook.) Discuss with your group.
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| What are some of your “deal-breakers” when it comes to a prospective partner?
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| How much is too much to spend on a wedding?
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| Do you know the story of how your parents met?
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| How would you like your marriage to be the same as your parents’? How would you like it to be different?
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| How do you think marriage and the family will change in the future?
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| Do you have a preferred “type”? Bring a picture! (Or several!)
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| Other experiences, stories, research...
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